There is so much focus on saying a thing correctly, saying all the right things, and we have so much awe around how and WHY people get caught saying the darndest things. We aren’t who we say we are, we are what we do. The more we talk, the more we are liable to say something that isn’t representative of who we are. It’s why we should talk less and do more.
“You are what you repeatedly do.”
“Actions speak louder than words.”
“Be a doer of the word and not just a hearer.” – The word in this sense is the “thing” you speak yourself to be or believe.
Leonardo Da Vinci once wrote a letter to the king at the time. In modern days it would be considered a resume, but in Leonardo’s “cover letter” he did not say what he was. He didn’t use labels. He merely stated what it was that he was capable of doing.
“I can construct bridges which are very light and strong and very portable with which to pursue and defeat an enemy…I can also make a kind of cannon, which is light and easy of transport, with which to hurl small stones like hail…I can noiselessly construct to any prescribed point subterranean passages–either straight or winding–passing if necessary under trenches or a river…I can make armored wagons carrying artillery, which can break through the most serried ranks of the enemy. In time of peace, I believe I can give you as complete satisfaction as anyone else in the construction of building, both public and private, and in conducting water from one place to another. I can execute sculpture in bronze, marble or clay. Also, in painting, I can do as much as anyone, whoever he may be.Leonardo Da Vinci
Have you ever really thought about what it is YOU do? Do you do anything better than anyone else? Do you have even one thing that you know you are capable of putting your life and reputation on the line to say you are an expert at? Leonardo only talked about what he could do, he wasn’t just talking to talk.
With social media, entrepreneur influencers, and even our government and news media, you’d think RHETORIC is EVERYTHING. Actions have become secondary. We don’t even do a good job of listening.
It’s how you say and look, the “marketing and advertising” that wins you the ball game. How the “product” is packaged is what matters.
So, we spend so much time trying to convince ourselves of a thing that we are saying that we miss the action part, when actions speak louder than words anyway. As adults we have learned to lie to ourselves, meaning that it’s inevitable we lie to others. Especially about who we are. That’s why relationships fail so often, because who we say we are never matches up with who we end up BEING over time through our actions.
A few months back I took a hiatus from social media. I decided I would blog, record my podcast and upload a Youtube video once a week, and work on creating e-books based on the material I was researching and reading without marketing through social media. I wanted to focus on just doing, not saying what I was doing. I wanted to do more and talk less.
For years I was so obsessed with my social media being out in front of the actual product that the actual product -my research and findings- kind of became more of a fairy tale that I convinced myself I was doing.
My content was so haphazard. It was here, it was there, with no true fluidity or foundation. It was flighty. It was reminiscent of my energy at the time. All over the place just like all the labels I gave myself.
Being off of social media for the advertising and marketing has allowed me to just do, for no one else other than myself.
And it’s so much easier now. Every week on Sunday I sit down and go over my notes for the week, the things I learned, and pick out the thing that had the most impact on my own psyche, and I write about it. My notes all go into the ebooks which I work on for later, and no longer have a timetable for.
My expectations? To do this once a week for an entire year, and then keep doing it. That’s all. Do more, talk less.
Why? Because it’s the least I could do for myself. It’s also what I really enjoy doing. It’s like producing my own TV show.
I have been one to say that I am a lot of things. And every time I talk about WHAT I am, I end up not doing or even changing my mind. So I began to focus more on talking less and doing more.
Over the years I have found out that I can also be A LOT of things. However, what I AM capable of according to my interests, are writing about the mind and its capabilities, and how it shapes how we think about the world. Life always seemed so unnecessarily hard, the way that we were raised to think about it.
None of it ever made sense to me. The question in my head was always, “Why do I have to do this, and why do I have to do it this way?”
But none of that even matters. My college degree, all the work I have done over the years for other people, and the labels I have created for myself like athlete, vegan, plant-based athlete, writer, blogger, coach, trainer, etc are all useless. They don’t mean anything.
I could say I am all those things.
But you know what’s better? Do more, talk less.
Doing them. Daily. If not daily, then consistently enough to say to a king that you are capable of doing that thing better than anyone else.
Because if you aren’t doing what you say you are daily, are you really that thing? Do you enjoy that thing? Would you do that thing even if it wasn’t making you money?
I AM a lot of things, all the time, every second. I can’t begin to label myself anymore.
So nowadays I just do, and enjoy what I do in every moment.
I suggest you do the same. Stop talking so much.