It’s completely toxic how our minds take control of our body and hold us hostage.
It’s quite ridiculous how we can be fine one moment, and next moment we are lost in thought, not even moving. We could be sitting on our couch, in an office chair, standing in line somewhere 6 ft. away from another person waiting to get food.
The mind is a tremendously large expanse(universe) where thoughts like supernovas send particles out of nothing to every far reaching corner of the universe(mind) and some where, at some point in time, those thoughts mix and mingle with other particles and become living things.
Living in the sense that our environments and everything that we do stems from what happens inside of our minds.
“to feel or express a strong desire or hope for something that is not easily attainable; want something that cannot or probably will not happen”Oxford Languages
A wish. A desire. Hope that is crushed ultimately by inaction.
Inaction caused by lack of faith in one’s self and the belief. Inaction caused by fear of failure, because of so many failures before.
One of the best “treatments” gaining popularity is EMDR, or “Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing.” Here’s an excerpt from a Scientific American article on EMDR:
One day in 1987 Francine Shapiro, a California psychologist in private practice, went for a walk in the woods. She had been preoccupied with a host of disturbing thoughts. Yet she discovered that her anxiety lifted after moving her eyes back and forth while observing her surroundings. Intrigued, Shapiro tried out variants of this procedure with her clients and found that they, too, felt better. EMDR was born.Scientific American
When asking clients to think of the emotion-provoking stimuli-usually a traumatic moment in time-the therapist moves a finger back and forth in front of the client’s eyes, asking the client to track the finger while thinking of the stimuli. This basic study has been done in droves since that day in the woods, and has been a source of alleviation of symptoms for patients and clients.
What This Means
Stop wishing, start doing.
Fear and all unpleasant experiences reside in the mind.
“An idle mind is the devil’s workshop,” they used to say. In the case of EMDR, it seems to be the truth.
The thought is what causes the unpleasant-ness. Our expectations and perspective about a situation make that situation what it is. It’s as if sitting and thinking about ANYTHING is likely the WORST thing to be doing.
When we move -and this is why people like going for runs- fear of the “situation” or “stimuli” is alleviated, allowing us to move forward.
There is a part to thinking and doing, but I truly believe that most of what we should be doing is exactly that: DOING.
Consider from here on out that wishes are wasted thoughts and energy, and doing at least guarantees you tried. But there is no try when you are doing, because you are DOING, not trying.
It’s why in football you get to TRY to kick an extra point or a field goal, or in basketball you get to TRY to make free throws, or in hockey and soccer you get a free TRY for a penalty show.
Because these aren’t guarantees, and you only get the one shot.
In life, when you fall 9 times and get up 10, it’s not that you’re trying. You’re DOING.
In doing, there is learning from previous mistakes, failures, and using that knowledge as we continue moving forward.
Only wish for what you want, then get up and go get it.
Stop wishing, start doing.