There is only ONE resolution you need to make this year.
On my my recent podcast I talked about courage, along with some other virtues. However, Courage is not the one resolution you need to make.
While courage is necessary, it is still just the first step we need to take.
As usual, there is a follow-up to every decision and choice that we choose to make. This part is where we see a lot of pain come in, because a lot of people make a choice, but never follow up.
“The Wise man is neither raised up by prosperity nor cast down by adversity;
What’s the follow up?
There is no magic potion to getting something done. There is only your choice to do, and the consequences of the choice.
Remember if something is worth having, it’s worth doing something about. And if something is worth doing something about, it’s worth standing there and dealing with the consequences while WAITING on the outcome.
These days, a lot of people are impatient(patience is another virtue) and unwilling to just DEAL. As if an easy life provides some sort of satisfaction. Satisfaction isn’t something achieved by avoiding all problems.
It isn’t something you can taste by never having gone through anything. We are supposed to have hiccups. We are supposed to have tough times. Without tough times, we cannot EVER experience joy.
Life has a dual nature to it:
- You have to WEATHER the STORM
- Without BAD times we wouldn’t know what a GOOD time is
- If you don’t experience pain, you never know what it’s like to be alive and well
- Suffering paves the way for gratitude
The list goes on.
Resilience is what causes a prize fighter to smile when they take a hit. In that moment a fighter acknowledges that yes, they have been hit. Hit hard. And it HURT. The smile in that moment tells the body:
“Hey, that wasn’t so bad. We can definitely take a few more shots like that an survive.”
The minute you decide to pout, grimace, frown, or be sad that something happened and it didn’t feel great, it’s all over for you.
Resilience is a state of being. Remember, how the mind thinks about things is how they are.
Steps to Being Resilient
Tension builds up in the body in places we don’t always see. Wonder why an old person has a sour face? They have been frowning most of their life. Those people you will see with ailments.
Because the mind isn’t well. If the mind isn’t well, the body cannot be well.
Know that everything works out.
If it doesn’t work out, you’re dead.
So, as long as you have breath, keep moving forward. Of course, you need a break, but that’s just a time y our mind needs to rest and recover from constantly working.
Work smarter, not harder. This means put your mind to use, not just your body.
Refer to the first step. 😉
Choose to live your life, your way.
Carrying the hopes and dreams of others is a sure fire way to get burnt out and be unhappy.
Choose to find yourself in all the chaos and be true to yourself.
When you live true to yourself, it’s easy to smile knowing that everything is your choice.
Although everything in general is OUR choice, it’s hard to see them as our choice when we are doing things solely, to please others.
At least when we live our lives, our way, we can take responsibility knowing that no matter what, we will never have any regrets and that everything is working out, whether we are learning lessons or experiencing a moment of sunshine after the rain.
People who dance in the rain live longer anyways.
– Coach Jay –